Elite dating has become an increasingly desirable way for intellectual and ultra high net-worth individuals to find their ideal match. Discretion and exclusivity are two things that Seventy Thirty value when it comes to helping people invest in their love life. This week, Susie Ambrose explores the do’s and don’ts of dating
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Do have a positive attitude. People like to be around people who are positive and by having a positive attitude towards a relationship and being relaxed, you’re more likely to make your partner feel happy and loved. Positivity is contagious!
Do keep an open mind. Take time to get to know someone, because the right person might come in an unexpected package.
Do have self-confidence. Confidence and self-esteem are highly attractive traits. A confident, self-assured person has a real sense of who they are and they’re not afraid to show their vulnerability. People with high levels of self-awareness and sell-esteem are more likely to rate themselves accurately and therefore have a realistic view of true compatibility.
Do invest in yourself. We seem to have no qualms about investing in our friends, family, careers or properties, but investing in ourselves seems to be something we aren’t very good at. It’s about more than just devoting time and money to our appearance, fitness and health, it’s about paying attention to our emotional and psychological wellbeing in meaningful way.
Do have clear and honest relationship goals. Once you establish these, you’ll know what you are looking for in a relationship and you can focus attention and efforts on finding the right person.
Do give and take. If you’re going to be in a healthy, balanced relationship, as well as thinking about what you want, think about what you have to offer. A relationship will be successful if both partners see that the rewards, costs and contributions are equal on both sides.
The love you feel will be the same wonderful force whether it takes a day, a year or a decade to find
Don’t have unrealistic expectations. When your expectations are grounded in fantasy rather than reality, they can be extremely damaging. You are automatically slamming the door in the face of many wonderful people that could be perfect for you.
Don’t be afraid to bond. Bonding with someone is a prerequisite for true love and a quality relationship. Connecting to another person means allowing that person to get close to you, and a healthy connection is based on readiness and trust while being aware of your own and your partner’s needs.
Don’t ignore red flags. If your love interest is obviously not in tune with your most important values, pay attention to those instincts.
Don’t be afraid to tell people that you’re looking for a relationship. But don’t focus on superficial traits, prioritise what’s important to you. Don’t forget, while you’re looking for someone, they’re looking for you!
Don’t be impatient. Being single and seeking a perfect partner can certainly be challenging. It may take some time, but remember, however long it takes makes no difference once you find it. The love you feel will be the same wonderful force whether it takes a day, a year or a decade to find.
Don’t raise your guard too high. Protecting yourself too much makes it difficult to let someone else in. Learn to be vulnerable and develop emotional intimacy. If you are afraid of being vulnerable, try and share this worry with your partner.
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