We know that attraction is an important element of any relationship, but men and women find different things attractive. Here are some tips for creating that elusive spark…
What men look for:
Positivity
Men tend to prefer someone who has a positive outlook on life and sees the glass as half-full rather than half-empty.
Drive and ambition
A ‘go-getter’ attitude is important – even if you aren’t where you want to be yet, men tend to appreciate focus and determination.
Independence
Men are often attracted to women who are independent and have their own interests as this helps to maintain a balance in a relationship.
Intelligence
Men tend to look for someone who’s their equal, both mentally and emotionally. Men like to be able to hold an intelligent conversation with their partner. Emotional stability is key; you need to be emotionally whole going into a relationship to ensure that you’re in the relationship because you want to be rather than because you need to be. There should be a good degree of emotional compatibility.
Confidence and self-esteem
Most men see confidence and self-esteem as highly attractive traits.
An equal balance of power within a relationship is the key to success
What women look for:
Leadership
Many women prefer men who are charismatic; someone who’s a leader and not afraid to express himself.
Confidence
Most women find confidence extremely sexy. Though this isn’t to be confused with arrogance or dominance! It’s more to do with having a ‘can-do’ attitude and a willingness to keep trying when the going gets tough.
Passion to succeed
Women often look for a man who is successful in his own right. This may mean that he’s following his passion in life. From the perspective of evolutionary psychology, successful men (or men who have the potential to be successful through their drive and ambition) are preferred as mates and long-term partners.
Equality
Women want a balanced relationship in which they feel appreciated and valued. For most women, an equal balance of power within a relationship is the key to success.
Ability to express emotions
Women value emotional expression as it’s a crucial step towards developing intimacy within a relationship.
Similarity
Women tend to be more attracted to people who are similar to them; this can be in terms of occupation, values and lifestyle.
A sense of fun
Women often value partners who are fun and adventurous.
When looking for a long-term partner, both men and women look for people with a sense of humour and who are friendly and communicative, as these traits all help to form compatible and cooperative relationships.
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