Exclusively tailored to the needs of the affluent and influential, elite dating company, Seventy Thirty, offers the best-kept secrets to dating. In this week’s column, Susie Ambrose gives us an insight into behaviour and why having a healthy view of ourselves is so important when maintaining a loving relationship
B is for behaviour
Love is a fundamental human need, and loving others allows us to put the needs and desires of others before our own. Today’s single people have many options to find the right person, and by being proactive they are very likely to meet that special someone.
The golden rule of treating others as you would like to be treated is a concept that allows us to reap rewards in a relationship. By being kind, we are inadvertently helping ourselves: improving our mood, strengthening our self-respect and confidence and making ourselves more attractive to others.
From an evolutionary perspective, the development of the adoption of this rule makes sense. Reciprocating caring behaviours, like emotions of empathy and compassion, to other members of our group is something that helps our species survive. To effectively practice this behaviour, we have to have a healthy view of ourselves as equally deserving of receiving kindness from others. The important thing to remember is that, by being kind, you are respecting yourself and can be proud of your behaviour. Finding or maintaining love always begins with the belief that you are worthy of love, so there is a much truth behind the cliché, ‘before someone can love you, you have to love yourself’.
Enhancing emotional communication is crucial in our romantic relationships. It is essential that both partners have a shared understanding of the meanings inherent within the messages and behaviours expressed by the other. In short, they must be speaking the same language. It is important that love is communicated in a way that we understand in order to feel cherished by our partner.
Many of the most envied relationships are ones with a strong friendship at their core – the partners can trust, talk to and count on each other. One of the main differences between friendship and a relationship is sensual desire, so you must allow your friend to see you in that way. You cannot act like a friend with a woman and expect her to become attracted to you. Instead, you must begin acting like a lover before she can begin considering you as a lover. You should be up front and honest about your intentions. That way, not too much time passes without someone you are interested in entertaining the idea of being more than friends.
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